Being Honest

So, I had a fight over facebook with a guy that I considered my friend about a month back. This guy I've known for a couple years. I trusted him. He was angry with me, so I wanted to hear why to see if we could work through things. He then unleashed a tirade at me of everything I've done that he was angry about. He was angry that I was actually happy being with this guy even though I had expressed a lot of nervous-ness and doubts before (He called me a hypocrite), he was angry that I would ask him for rides and that it didn't occur to me to offer some gas money (I'm sorry, I don't drive anymore so this doesn't occur to me unless you mention it), he was angry that when I did ask for rides I would guilt him into it (He said I sounded passive-aggressive and forced him into giving me rides. I'm sorry, I didn't realize!).

Of course, I was extremely angry. I was shaking, I was so angry. After the anger faded...I was hurt.

To make things worse, the next day (my birthday, 30 minutes before a party that he had been invited to so he knew about it) he called me to ask if I could help him clean his new roommate's old house! Excuse me?

He's back to being his normal self again, and is baffled as to why I'm not my normal self. I tried to explain why I was hurt. His reaction was, "Do you want remorse from me? Guilt?"

No, asshole, I want you to understand.

So I stopped talking to him. For a month. Finally I thought, "Well...maybe I can talk to him again...he knows how to contact me if he wants to."

Last night he started facebook chatting with me, basically saying he wanted the two of us to be ok again. I tried to explain why we weren't in the first place. He basically took everything, and instead of trying to understand things from my perspective, he twisted everything so that he came out to be blameless and I was the only one at fault for feeling the way I did. He even said that any feeling of being attacked that I got from his "being honest" was entirely my take on it, and that he's not sorry for it one bit.

You know what? There's a way to be honest with your friend without pulling out your Sword of Truth and stabbing me with it.

Work study fail

So, I tried to get work-study last semester so that I could work with the theater department's master electrician as one of the student electricians. I was all excited because I really did enjoy the work and feeling useful, and even learning more about lights, sound, and media. I was also excited about being able to work with every and able to actually earn a paycheck. However I was not able to get work-study, so I went to financial aid today to see why. Basically, it's because I was deemed to not "need" it, financially. So, as it is, I cannot get work study, so I don't know if I can get hired at all or if I could work for maybe one day a week. I don't know.

*sigh*

Disappoint.

Fighting, worries, and such

So I'm a little worried about tonight. Brandon and I fought some time ago. It was all just really really bad. We stopped talking. Well, I stopped talking to him anyway. He invited me over tonight. I'm more than a bit nervous about tonight. We'll see how it goes, right?

I'm also a bit worried about my wrists. Too much crocheting I guess. My forearms just...hurt. So much. I just wish I could ask someone to help me out by massaging my arms or something because it's so painful, but I'm alone and don't really have someone to ask. I think I need to wait a few days before I can go back to crocheting. It just hurts so much. (ouch...)

I'm trying to help myself and do what I can, but there's only so much I can do. Hopefully it'll be better tomorrow?