Being Honest

So, I had a fight over facebook with a guy that I considered my friend about a month back. This guy I've known for a couple years. I trusted him. He was angry with me, so I wanted to hear why to see if we could work through things. He then unleashed a tirade at me of everything I've done that he was angry about. He was angry that I was actually happy being with this guy even though I had expressed a lot of nervous-ness and doubts before (He called me a hypocrite), he was angry that I would ask him for rides and that it didn't occur to me to offer some gas money (I'm sorry, I don't drive anymore so this doesn't occur to me unless you mention it), he was angry that when I did ask for rides I would guilt him into it (He said I sounded passive-aggressive and forced him into giving me rides. I'm sorry, I didn't realize!).

Of course, I was extremely angry. I was shaking, I was so angry. After the anger faded...I was hurt.

To make things worse, the next day (my birthday, 30 minutes before a party that he had been invited to so he knew about it) he called me to ask if I could help him clean his new roommate's old house! Excuse me?

He's back to being his normal self again, and is baffled as to why I'm not my normal self. I tried to explain why I was hurt. His reaction was, "Do you want remorse from me? Guilt?"

No, asshole, I want you to understand.

So I stopped talking to him. For a month. Finally I thought, "Well...maybe I can talk to him again...he knows how to contact me if he wants to."

Last night he started facebook chatting with me, basically saying he wanted the two of us to be ok again. I tried to explain why we weren't in the first place. He basically took everything, and instead of trying to understand things from my perspective, he twisted everything so that he came out to be blameless and I was the only one at fault for feeling the way I did. He even said that any feeling of being attacked that I got from his "being honest" was entirely my take on it, and that he's not sorry for it one bit.

You know what? There's a way to be honest with your friend without pulling out your Sword of Truth and stabbing me with it.